Virtual Boston Marathon Recap

It’s been a long time coming but it’s finally here…my recap of the first ever Virtual Boston Marathon. 

Running is hard. Running a marathon is really hard. Running a virtual marathon is the hardest thing ever! Of course I knew this going in, which I suppose only made it worse. 

I’ve gone back and forth about writing this post for fear of putting out something so negative, but here it is. Let me start by saying, I do realize that it’s great and amazing that I was able to qualify for Boston and yes that, in itself, is something to be proud of. Knowing and acknowledging that somehow didn’t make it any more to an amazing experience.

If memory serves me right the virtual Boston Marathon participants were given a window in which to run it starting on September 7th and ending on the 14th. I chose to run it on the 7th, Labor Day, because it worked with my schedule, it was a holiday which meant traffic would be minimal and family would be home to support me.

Days before…

I had roughly planned out a route ahead of time. I say roughly because I knew where the big miles would be but there was a possibility that I would need to tack on a half mile to a mile at the end. My first mistake (of many), a half mile is a long freaking way after you just ran (walk, crawl) 25ish miles. 

The night before…

The night before my husband (God love him) decided he would ride his ebike (electric bike) along side me to keep me company and carry supplies. I know I should have been grateful, I do, but this just gave me anxiety. Now I had him to worry about. At best I was going to be out there for 4 1/2 to 5 hours, that’s a long time even on a bike. Ugh.

I slept as well as can be expected before a marathon with thoughts going through my head…the big one being…Did I train enough? Probably not (turns out, not. This is really my 1st mistake) but “I’ll be fine. I can do hard things.”  I went over the route in my head, did a mental checklist…fuel, phone charged, Jaybirds charged, Garmin charged, sunglasses, etc. 

*Google images*

Show time…

Okay, so now it’s morning and it’s dark. Thankfully my husband was there (yeah I know, I’m grateful) with his bike light so I could see where I was going, last thing I needed was to trip and fall. The first 10 miles were pretty smooth, except for an emergency poop stop in the bushes at the beach. The bathrooms were locked due to the pandemic but my husband had wet wipes and all was good. At this point he tried to get me to eat a banana but my belly wasn’t having it so I declined. I hadn’t had much of anything up to this point except half of a Cliff bar before leaving the house. (3rd mistake, not fueling well before or during the “race”)

At mile 10 my girls and one of their boyfriends met up with us to cheer me on. I stopped and chatted while my husband used the restroom (of course these were open and I no longer needed them). At this point I was feeling pretty good. I ran past 2 guys running in the other direction who noticed my bib and yelled out that they were running the virtual Boston too, YAY!! This gave me a burst of energy and put a big smile on my face. And then things got real.

Attitude is everything.

I’ve said this before but dang it is so true! My attitude and positive thoughts are what got me through training for my qualifying race as well as the race itself, you’d think I’d learn. My attitude during this “race” sucked. All I could think of was how far I had to go and I had to do it alone. Yes my husband was there but I had no fellow runners, no spectators, no kids sticking their hands out for an energy filled high five. No witty signs or words of encouragement.  No real Boston experience. 🙁

A few times I stopped and sat on the side of the road in the grass not wanting to go a step further. I can’t even say my legs were necessarily tired, they just didn’t want to go. My heart didn’t want to go. The hubby did the best he could at pushing me forward and trying to get me to take fuel but I was not having any of it. At one point he offered to call the girls to have them come pick me up, but “No” I was going to finish even if I whined and complained the whole way. Which I did. 

*Google images*

Family and friends make the difference. 

Having my family and friends cheering for me along the route (and virtually) made all the difference. I had people at miles 10, 13, 15, 18 and 23. This was a long day for them too because it was taking me forever to get through this ordeal, but they made it tolerable and brought tears to my eyes every time I saw them. I knew I had to finish because people were counting on me. There was no way I could go back to work and say I gave up. How disappointed would they be in me? It got me to the finish line.

The finish line!

My husband turned off for home as I was tacking on that last mile but my neighbor showed up and talked me in to the finish line. And there was a finish line, complete with tape and balloons, curtesy of my girls. It was more than I expected or felt that I deserved. More tears. 

Finish line

Lessons learned…

  • I will never do another virtual marathon ever again. Never! (Not even sure I’ll do a regular marathon.)
  • Running is all in your head. Okay, I knew this but I was rudely reminded.
  • Attitude is everything and mine can suck. 
  • Training well is so important.
  • Food is fuel, and fuel is needed for endurance. Fuel even if you think you can’t. 

If you made it this far, thanks for reading. I hope you took something positive from this very negative post. Again, I am proud that I had the perseverance to train for and thus qualify for Boston, but I still am disappointed for not having the Boston experience. Those are my feelings and I own them.

 Have you done a virtual marathon, or would you? Have negative thoughts ever taken over a race for you?

I’m linking with Kim and Zenaida for Tuesday’s Topics and Debbie, Deborah, Lisa, Jen and Laura for Runners’ Roundup.

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Thanks for reading. 

                        Denise

44 COMMENTS

  1. Kim at Running on the Fly | 19th Jan 21

    Having done nine marathons, I can totally emphasize on how much work (physically, mentally AND emotionally) it takes. As far as Boston, well all I can do is try to imagine your experience….but I certainly can “assume” the disappointment to not be able to run the Boston Marathon on the actual streets of Boston. I deferred my marathon last year (and still haven’t re-registered for 2021) because I cannot imagine running all those miles without the race day fanfare. Huge kudos to you for finishing what you started!! You can do hard things, and you were able to do this one on your own.

    • Denise | 19th Jan 21

      Nine marathons is a lot. I think I’m done at 5. You are correct…all those miles without the fanfare is a lot.

  2. Chocolaterunsjudy | 19th Jan 21

    I have never run a marathon at all, and I think anyone who tackles a virtual one — you’ve got grit, girl. Seriously. Part of running a distance race is the other people out there running it with you!

    Pretty sure we’ve all been there with races & bad attitudes. You did it, so you deserve a big high five!

    I’m sorry it was such a miserable experience — and the bathrooms being closed when you needed them just added insult to injury!

    But finally, you did it!!!!! Did I mention that? 😉 Don’t discount a RL marathon. You just never know and live is just so much better.

    • Denise | 19th Jan 21

      Live is so much better. It’s amazing how much energy and motivation you draw from the people around you. Thanks for the high five.

      • Chocolaterunsjudy | 21st Jan 21

        You’re welcome! Yes, race atmosphere is everything!

  3. Wendy | 19th Jan 21

    I loved that you made the statement about how you had to worry about your husband because he wanted to ride alongside you…I totally get that. My 1st Chicago marathon, I took way longer than I should have and then I was looking for him…when I ran it again, I told him to stay home. It was great not having to worry about finding him or finishing when he would be expecting me. In fact that was my PR marathon! By the way, I don’t think this was a negative post. Running a marathon is tough; a virtual marathon is really hard. No crowd support, no actual finish line (finishing had to feel anti-climatic). I totally get it. Congrats on pushing through what had to be a tough mental challenge!

    • Denise | 19th Jan 21

      The finish, while a sweet thoughtful gesture on my girls part, was totally anti-climatic. I didn’t even get my medal until a month later. Thanks for the support and kind words about not being a negative post. 🙂

  4. Lisa | 19th Jan 21

    I appreciate your honesty about this race! I actually shared on Monday that I’ve been considering a virtual marathon, but I’m not sure that I’m ready for the commitment. I’m just itching to do another marathon and I don’t know how long it will be before I can do a live one! There are so many things to consider though. Congrats on pushing yourself and finishing the race!

    • Denise | 19th Jan 21

      Thanks Lisa. If you do decide to do a virtual marathon I highly recommend you have people along the course supporting you. It was really the only thing that kept me going. Good luck!

  5. deborahbrooks14 | 19th Jan 21

    I have never run a full marathon and I can say that running one virtually I would not have in me. You are right that attitude has so much to do with running it can be such a mental game. I am sorry that you did not get to rock the real Boston course (yet). Huge congrats to you on training for and accomplishing this!

    • Denise | 19th Jan 21

      Thanks Deborah. I’m surprised that you have never run a full marathon. I thought for sure that would be right up your alley.

  6. Zenaida Arroyo | 19th Jan 21

    Thank you for sharing this with us. I truly enjoyed reading it. Running a marathon is hard. I know the crowd support and excitement is a big part of what gets you to the finish line. I am proud of you. You did not give up and made the best of it. It might not have been the real thing but still you ran 26.2 miles. Congrats again!!

    • Denise | 19th Jan 21

      Thanks so much Zenaida. Yes, crowd support and the excitement are a huge part of what gets you through a race. I won’t make that mistake again. 😉

      • Zenaida Arroyo | 20th Jan 21

        Oh, I am not saying don’t run a virtual marathon. I admire those that do it.

  7. Catrina | 20th Jan 21

    Haha, Denise, what a great read!
    Horray for family and friends! I think I would have cried too, seeing them at the finish line with balloons and all. And then having friends lined up at certain points, a neighbour talking you to a finish line and above all, a husband accompanying you for the WHOLE stretch! Amazing.

    Well done! It was a fantastic feat. How long did it take you?

    • Denise | 22nd Jan 21

      Sorry Catrina, I was having trouble responding to you (ugh). Yes my family and friends are amazing! They truly helped me get to the finish line.
      I’m embarrassed to say how long it took but at this point it doesn’t matter. It took 6 long hours! Way too long to be running (or for my husband, riding a bike). In my defense (Lol) I didn’t plan on finishing with a good time because I knew I would stop at certain points and I wasn’t trying for a PR and it wouldn’t be an “official” time.
      Thanks for your support!

      • Catrina | 22nd Jan 21

        There’s no need to be embarrassed, Denise! You did a magnificent job!

        • Denise | 22nd Jan 21

          Awww, thanks for saying that. I don’t think I have told anyone how long it took until now. 🙂

  8. Shathiso @thegaboronerunner.com | 20th Jan 21

    I loved your honesty in this post. A great read even though the experience wasn’t the best for you! I’m so glad your family and friends were so supportive, even with balloons at the end. But I totally get why it was hard for you to write. I’ve had a couple of races where my head has been my enemy. Recently, I did a 20km training run with my husband – not a virtual race or anything, just a run. And I couldn’t stop complaining. It was a trail so we were out for about 3 hours and it was non-stop complaining for me. And then I felt bad that he was with me as he would have long been done if he was running alone. But there was nothing I could do to get out of that funk.

    I’m training for an ultra trail (44km) at the moment which is in South Africa. And a big fear of mine is whether it’s safe to cross the border for a race given the pandemic. So I’ve been contemplating doing it virtually (there’s no virtual option so I wouldn’t get a medal). But I know how tough that will be especially as this is my first one. I’ve never even done a marathon.

    • Denise | 20th Jan 21

      It’s a bummer when you get in a negative funk, it’s so draining.
      A virtual ultra trail run would definitely be a challenge, especially not having done a marathon. Anything is possible though. When is the race scheduled? They are saying things may be back to normal by September if people get vaccinated in a timely manner.
      Good luck on whatever you decide! We all are here to cheer you on!

      • Shathiso @thegaboronerunner.com | 20th Jan 21

        It’s in the first week of March. So it’s quite soon. No word on vaccinations from our Government yet but I pray it will start soon.

        • Denise | 21st Jan 21

          Yeah, that’s so soon. Maybe if you get your vaccines by then so at least you will be safe.

          • Shathiso @thegaboronerunner.com | 21st Jan 21

            I think we are not even close to getting our vaccines. Rumour has it the vaccine will only reach South Africa in February/March and that means for us (Botswana) maybe mid year if that.🤣 But I’ll play it by ear now, keep training and make a decision closer or the time.

          • Denise | 21st Jan 21

            That sounds like a great plan! Good luck!

  9. Laura Norris Running | 20th Jan 21

    A virtual marathon sounds so challenging! Marathons are hard enough…I can’t imagine doing one alone. That is an accomplishment in itself!

    • Denise | 20th Jan 21

      Thanks Laura. It didn’t feel like much of an accomplishment considering how long it took me. 🙄But I did get a medal.😁

  10. Jenny | 21st Jan 21

    My heart really goes out to everyone who qualified for Boston and then had it canceled! So sad! I hope you do go on to run more marathons and get to do Boston in a live race. You’ll definitely look back on this one as a big accomplishment- one of those experiences you can draw on in tough times and think “If I did THAT, I can do this!” Thanks for posting- race recaps are fun, live or virtual!

    • Denise | 21st Jan 21

      Thanks for the encouraging words! I want to run in Boston so bad but at this point I don’t think it’s going to happen. They still haven’t announce a race day for 2021.

  11. runswithpugs | 21st Jan 21

    A virtual marathon sounds INTENSE. Like super intense. I don’t think I could have done it.

    I love that your husband when with you. I totally understand the mixed feelings, but it must have been great to have someone carrying your stuff. I HATE carrying ANYTHING on a run, and I always joke about hiring a sherpa to handle my stuff. And how incredible that he had wet wipes, am I right???

    Congratulations! You are amazing!

    • Denise | 21st Jan 21

      The wet wipes were a definite bonus!

  12. Marcia | 22nd Jan 21

    Oh wow Denise. I can’t give you enough credit for taking on that distance VIRTUALLY. 26.2 is hard in the best of circumstances. To run that on your own…well…I don’t think I’d take it on. Again I’m so sorry you and everyone else missed out on the celebration that is Boston. Props to your family for coming out and supporting you. That is so special. I totally get what you said about your hubby. I think I’d feel the same way. It was sweet of him though. Huge congrats on pushing through and finishing!

    • Denise | 22nd Jan 21

      Thanks Marcia. I felt it was the only way I would get the medal because there is no guarantee that I will be accepted if and when they have the actual race in Boston. My family did help to make it doable.

  13. Darlene | 22nd Jan 21

    All I can say is I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU RAN A VIRTUAL MARATHON!!!

    I’ve only run one and it was the crowd that kept me going… barely.

    So BIG kudos to you.

    I hope some day you get to run a real one in Boston.

    • Denise | 22nd Jan 21

      Yeah, some runners will do anything for a Boston Marathon medal. Lol. I’m not sure I will even apply for Boston if they decide to have a live marathon in the Fall. It’s disappointing but I don’t know if I have another marathon in me.

      • Darlene | 22nd Jan 21

        You may change your mind for a real one. Still you ran one. That’s amazing.

  14. Coco | 22nd Jan 21

    Wow, I’m so impressed you did this. There is no way I could do a marathon without all the bells and whistles. That finish line is amazing though. That might have been enough to make me want to earn it.

    • Denise | 22nd Jan 21

      I didn’t see the finish line until I finished. They were doing it in between cheering spots. It’s a lot of work being a cheering squad. Lol

  15. Debbie Woodruff | 24th Jan 21

    I’ve done several virtual half marathons but I’ve already decided if my marathon I’m supposed to run in June goes virtual I will not do it. Nope, no way. Congratulations on your virtual Boston. Great job!

    • Denise | 25th Jan 21

      Even a virtual half seems like a lot, even though I ran that distance several times for marathon training. I really want real race with all the bells and whistles (literally) 🙂

  16. Janelle @ Run With No Regrets | 25th Jan 21

    First off, congratulations on your virtual Boston marathon!! I’ve run 2 marathons and the energy along the course is a HUGE part of the motivation I need, so I know I would struggle with a virtual race of such a long distance. That’s great that you had such a great support system and the finish line looks fantastic! I appreciate your honesty on how tough it was.

    • Denise | 25th Jan 21

      Thanks Janelle! Yes the energy along the route is HUGE! My kids did do such a great job on the finish line. 😊

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